My feelings tell me something.
Every feeling is a signal. Not noise, not a problem, not something to push past. A signal — carrying information about what I need, what matters to me, where my limits are, and how I am reading the world around me.
Most of us were never taught to read that signal clearly. We learned to manage feelings, perform them, suppress them, or explain them away before they had a chance to say what they were actually saying.
MFTM is a place for reading them differently.
The MFTM philosophy
Why are feelings worth reading? What is the inner map they are navigating, and what gets in the way of reading it accurately? These posts lay the philosophical foundation for everything else on this site — the thinking behind the project.
My Feelings Tell Me
Feelings point somewhere. To a need that isn’t being met, a value that has been touched, a limit that is close, a filter shaping how a situation is being read. This series explores what feelings are telling me — about my needs, my values, my boundaries, my story, and more.
The Feelings Portal
Every feeling has its own post. Start with the feeling you already recognise, or the family that feels closest to where you are right now.
Happy feelings
Tells me something is right. Something aligns with who I am and what I value.
Sad feelings
Tells me I have lost something, or that something matters deeply.
Angry feelings
Tells me something is unjust, or a limit has been crossed.
Fearful feelings
Tells me something feels unsafe, uncertain, or exposed.
Bad feelings
Tells me something is off. I am out of balance and need to pay attention.
Surprised feelings
Tells me something unexpected has happened. I need a moment to adjust.
Disgusted feelings
Tells me something conflicts with my values or sense of what is acceptable.
Key concepts
The terms used on MFTM have specific meanings. Feelings, emotions, reactions, values, needs, limits, filters, narrative, shame, guilt — they are defined precisely and used consistently. If you want to understand the language behind the site, this is the place to start.
What is MFTM?
If you want to understand the thinking behind this project — what it is built on, what it is not, and who it is for — start here.